Slept with girl who has a boyfriend
I think of myself as a woman of integrity, a lady of honor, an upstanding broad. If you had asked me when I was in high school if I'd ever sleep with a man I knew was otherwise entangled, I would have given a proud and emphatic "no way, sister. But as I got older, this view of relationships, among other things, got complicated. I've been married, separated, divorced, monogamous, polyamorous, celibate, and in recent years I've once in a while been the "other woman. And when someone tells me they have a girlfriend, I never pressure them to sleep with me. I don't even disregard their relationship with some sort of "I don't care if you don't care," or "she'll never know.
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Girl Has a Boyfriend? 3 Things to Do, and 7 Things NOT to
I've been with my fair share of "attached" women before - that's girls with boyfriends and girls with husbands. As I've mentioned before, the way I see it, there's always some guy, SOMEWHERE who's going to be angry you're sleeping with a girl - whether he's her boyfriend, her ex-boyfriend, her husband, or just some guy who's already "called dibs" on her and you moved faster, it doesn't matter - somebody somewhere is upset that you're with "his" girl. So you can either spend time worrying if some man you don't know will have his feelings hurt if you sleep with a woman who wants you, or you can sleep with a woman who wants you and figure that if someone is upset about her for sleeping with someone else, well, that's between that person and her.
If you're dating a beautiful girl, men will want her, and men will try to get her. More power to them for trying. And hey, if she DOES give you the slip for some other cat, you can take that as strong evidence that either you weren't doing things right with her, or she wasn't the kind of girl who believes much in loyalty and fidelity, or you're dealing with some combination thereof usually it's some combination thereof.
Lately though, I've been seeing some pretty lame attempts by men trying to get my girlfriend. And it's made me and my girlfriend realize: most men have no idea what to do when a girl has a boyfriend and they like her. In an effort to stem the tide of lame attempts men make to get girls with boyfriends, I've put together a list here of the top 3 things TO do, and the top 7 things NOT to do when you're trying to get a girl who's got a guy.
After reading this list you will, I hope, be in a much better position to avoid making these mistakes - and avoid ending up in time-wasting or worse situations with attached women, too. The most annoying situation you'll encounter when a girl has a boyfriend is the one where said girl's not going to do anything at all with you Look out for these girls, or you might get sucked into a black hole where you're chasing after a girl, and eventually even perhaps can't stop thinking about her and start falling for her, while she's busily shacking up with that silly boyfriend you thought you could outfox.
Many a daring man has been lost to falling for a girl with a boyfriend he can't convince her to leave. To save you from such a fate, our list of what not to do starts off with this unique category of women and situations: the Time Wasters. No doubt you've been out somewhere - a bar, a nightclub, a party - and met or seen the girl who's miffed at her boyfriend and is trying to make him jealous.
If a girl has a boyfriend with her at a party or club and she's upset at him and trying to make him jealous, that tells you two things:. For all these reasons, a girl who pops up looking for some guy to help make her boyfriend jealous is usually a bad bet and is going to lead to wasted time and effort. There is, however, ONE glaring exception. Before anyone asks me to censor this because they don't like it, remember that when a girl is trying to make her boyfriend jealous, she isn't interacting with another guy as a person - she's trying to USE him as a tool to make her boyfriend mad.
Is there harm in having a consensual encounter with a woman who was trying to use you? The only people who seem to have a gripe with this are those who believe that women are unable to control themselves, and therefore men must control women's emotions for them, for the good of society. Needless to say, as someone who sees women as, well, thinking, independent PEOPLE, this argument doesn't hold much salt with me.
So here it is: if you move fast with a girl who has a boyfriend - like, really fast - you can sometimes clean up here. One friend of mine met a girl who was upset at her boyfriend and she took him out to her car for a quick fling about 30 minutes after they met.
Another friend of mine met a girl upset with her boyfriend and took her in an alleyway outside the nightclub they met, before she went back inside to rejoin her friends and boyfriend. If you don't have your sexual vibe down and you're not moving blazing fast at handling logistics though, girls mad at their boyfriends and trying to make them jealous will just waste your time.
They're just trying to use you to make the boyfriend feel bad and chase after them. Don't be a tool to help her make her boyfriend chase her harder. Escalate things and see if you can move girls that are seemingly flirting with and interested in you, and if you can't - move on. There are plenty of other women you can meet who won't be nearly as much of a headache. I don't recommend doing this anyway see the ever-popular-with-the-ladies " Should You Pay for a Date?
You take her out for a nice seafood dinner The next day. After she went home after your dinner and had sex with her boyfriend. You're pursuing her over time, spending on her, entertaining her, and he's I'll tell you how it affects it.
Her attraction for you plummets deeper and deeper down into the bottomless well of no-attraction. I've seen this happen back in the old days when I'd still spend time taking women on multiple dates and I did this with girls in relationships, and I still see this now with guys trying to get girls I'm dating. My current girlfriend will let male friends who want to be more than friends buy her dinner, but you can see the drop in attraction as time goes on - she might describe the guy as charming initially, but after a few of these outings she visibly has less and less respect for him.
Don't be that guy who's taking a girl who's already got a boyfriend on date after date. If you can't do it in one date, the chance that you do do it falls dramatically with all women - but especially with a woman who's already got a man who's providing for her what you are not. You know what I'm talking about: the guy who's just friends with a girl he likes in the hopes that she'll eventually realize he's better for her than her boyfriend is, or that she's eventually going to break up with her boyfriend and then the two of them can be together.
Why's this a bad idea? If you don't know, you need to check out that "Just Friends" article, as well as the one on the friend zone. But the long and short of it is, she's going to stop seeing you as a potential mate and come to value you primarily just for your friendship.
She will date someone when she eventually breaks up with her boyfriend And all the while, the guys who were plowing all their time into "being there" for her are going to receive nothing in return for their time - at least not what they'd hoped. The only real thing you'll get will be a front row seat to her relationship ups and downs, and you'll get to be there to dry her eyes in between boyfriends.
Not exactly "Consolation Prize of the Year," if you ask me. Don't waste time on being a girl's friend while you hope for her relationship to end. Instead, just come back into her life when her relationship ends. Trust me, she'll have a lot more attraction for you still than the guys who were hanging around holding her hand through the break up But I put so much time in!
You may be surprised to hear it, but there are, in fact, girls who are nothing but teases out there. My girlfriend right now is this way - she leads men on and leads men on, and they never get anywhere with her. She did it when she was single, and she does it now. She used to not be aware she was doing it, but now she is Many guys HATE hearing about these kinds of girls, because they've had their own run ins with a tease and it wasted a lot of their time.
Understand this, though: a girl who's a tease is not usually being a tease out of malice, but out of a sense of fun. I've seen a few girls who led men on because they liked messing with guys. That's pretty rare, though. Most of the girls who knowingly lead men on do it because they get a kick out of it, and they really believe that they're making the man feel good too - he gets to talk to a pretty girl, right? And that's the rub: the girl figures the value the man gets out of the whole interaction is that he gets to talk to a pretty girl.
When a girl is leading a man on, she assumes he's a guy who doesn't get to talk to pretty girls that much. Because experienced guys don't get led on. It's only the guys who don't know what they're doing that do. What do experienced guys do differently? They don't waste time. They'll very quickly set up dates and get together with a girl, and very quickly sleep with a girl, or they'll disappear. A girl who's a tease is getting her kicks while in a relationship without risking that relationship.
After all, no harm a guy can do her over text, right? She'll sometimes meet up if pushed, but she'll get upset if the meet up goes out of control and the guy tries to advance things. Why's that upsetting?
Because that's not the role he's supposed to play. He's supposed to text her and let her get her kicks, and in return she'll provide some hope to him that he might actually have a chance with a hot girl like her.
The reality? He lost his chance the moment he started chasing her. Don't chase women - especially not women in relationships, and especially not women who'll tease.
Just because a girl who has a boyfriend decides to go for you doesn't automatically mean you should go for it. There are other considerations, too, not the least of which are the ones where there are going to be consequences to your actions that aren't going to be so good. It's not worth putting yourself in a situation where a guy's going psycho because his little princess ran off and hooked up with some guy she met at a dive bar you. And if you think he'll never find out, you might be surprised.
I received a phone call from the husband whom I didn't know existed of a girl I slept with sometime back. I thought she was single; turned out she was a newlywed. I've met boyfriends who gave me cold stares; they knew. I don't know anyone personally who's had a violent run-in with a boyfriend, husband, or ex of a girl he's slept with, and I know some guys with pretty sordid pasts, but this sort of thing is something to be very wary of. If she's the kind of person who'll involve herself with a crazy violent person, too, that says something about her as well - even if she's trying her best to not let on that there might be anything wrong.
Steer clear if she's got an overly possessive man in her immediate past or present. There are thousands or millions of women in your town right now that aren't going to introduce those kinds of problems into your life, no matter how "wonderful" she might seem to be in the moment.
A girl who's emotionally a mess can trigger another one of those deceptive "Ha HA! Easy pickings! What does "more" mean, exactly? Well, to put it bluntly: you're going to be listening to her problems - often, complaints about her boyfriend - and she's going to be constantly talking about what makes her unhappy. If you're good , you can tell her, "Shut up, and let's just try and have a great time and not think about our problems," but at some point - maybe before you take her to bed, maybe after - those problems are going to come back again.
She's stuck in a loop, and she'll keep returning to the things that are on her mind - and what's on her mind isn't her and you unless you cause some problems for her that she can dwell on, that is ; rather, they're her and her boyfriend, or her and how men don't treat women right, or don't treat her right, or how her parents didn't treat her right, or how someone is doing something not right to her. Basically, she isn't in control of her life, she's going to blame everyone else for her problems, and you're either going to listen to it Worth selling your soul just to partake of her charms?
Unless she's exceptionally more beautiful than what you're accustomed to and perhaps even then , the answer's a resounding "no. This is the one where I'll advise you to rein in your powers of seduction to avoid wrecking a woman's life.
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I've been with my fair share of "attached" women before - that's girls with boyfriends and girls with husbands. As I've mentioned before, the way I see it, there's always some guy, SOMEWHERE who's going to be angry you're sleeping with a girl - whether he's her boyfriend, her ex-boyfriend, her husband, or just some guy who's already "called dibs" on her and you moved faster, it doesn't matter - somebody somewhere is upset that you're with "his" girl. So you can either spend time worrying if some man you don't know will have his feelings hurt if you sleep with a woman who wants you, or you can sleep with a woman who wants you and figure that if someone is upset about her for sleeping with someone else, well, that's between that person and her. If you're dating a beautiful girl, men will want her, and men will try to get her.
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