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I want a man who means everything he says

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How to tell if a guy likes you, translating man-speak

If you have boundaries, values, an awareness about red flags and a reasonable level of self-esteem, a warning statement like this will make you very uncomfortable and bring you back down to earth with a bump. This man already knows his capacity or what he is prepared to give.

A decent guy in this situation will not only tell you this, but will opt out and move on with his life. A guy who wants to enjoy the fringe benefits of the relationship while managing down your expectations has a thinking that works like this:. Stop expecting!

Stop dreaming! Stop betting on potential! See me as I am! Again, a decent guy will not only tell you this but opt and move on. In fact, if you were to persist in trying to be with him, he may even have to do no contact on you. If you still want to be with me in spite of this, I know you want the illusion more than you want your self-respect and a real relationship.

Hard as it may be for some of you to hear, there is no hidden meaning to these statements. When people show you who they are through their actions or tell you who they are, you need to be listening and watching, not denying or deciding that you know better, or playing Dan Brown looking to break a code.

Add in context to the situation and you really get a sense of what they mean:. Heed the warning signs. Thanks again Natalie for an amazingly insightful post. Having just walked away from a relationship where these exact words were uttered and dealing with letting go of someone I loved, you have once again managed to bring me back to reality and see things for how they were.

I thank you! After 3 years of on again off again I finally got real with everything and saved myself from the insanity. I wish I read this about a year ago.. I cut contact with my Mr Unavailable a few weeks back and I recognize so many things..

He was always saying, I cannot give you what you need, but nobody else will love you more.. It kept me in the waiting room for almost 2 years.. I was such an idiot.. If the man does this and is trying to manage down your expectations and the demise of the relationship begins because he is not putting in enough effort and fighting starts and all down a bad road…then why does he turn around and say your the one ruining this relationship?

That was and is not what i wanted…my kids have a dad and i was looking for some fun for myself, someone just for me for a good long while and plus they already have a dad in their lives. I was steamed that he had the nerve to decide what i wanted, for one thing, and secondly, he knew the kids were there from day one, why did he even mess me about then?! THen this AC blew hot again a few days later…gimme a break!

Also a great little upper for those of us that figured this one out a while ago…a good affirmation of our perceptions. When we would argue, he would just say words and words that never really said anything. And ladies, here is a MAJOR red flag that I have never seen a guy do until now: When you tell him that you like something maybe a sexual move he did, or maybe some little favor he did for you… , and he makes sure that he never does it again!

Instead, after a year and a half of seeing each other, he chose to offer a relationship to another woman [that subsequently went down the toilet after 7 short months] whilst i stood on the sidelines watching him try to love somebody else. I blew the whistle on their relationship by calling her up.

By the time i made that call, their relationship was pretty much over anyway. I slept with him twice and I was expecting him to offer me a relationship, now that he and her were thru [how stupid is that??? So when he did not, i argued with him and cut contact. I thought i was irreplaceable. It still hurts to know that i was used for so long, but I will get over it one day. I feel for you. I guess they never change even with the new woman.

I dumped his sorry ass, now he has given the relationship to someone new, I wish I could have the luck to see his fall. Is that the same thing? Thanks, TJ. I think so, yes. Keep your eyes and ears open. I agree with so much of what is said in this post, especially this: They mean what they say.

Hi Frisky, Thanks for your post. It was soooo incredibly frustrating when he would say those things to me. I saw more in him than he saw in himself at the time. But now, I totally understand that he is just a loser and a user. At the same time, what I am curious about is this: Will he behave the same way in other relationships?

Or do these men just act this way with certain women? I just remembered something else he said to me. I thought at the time that it was the most pathetic thing anyone has ever said to me…. I do think that there is nothing wrong with those fears if people are willing to share and work through them. But, that does take true desire to work to gain some emotional intelligence and insight that will make the relationship peaceful and loving, instead of chaotic and painful.

I ended up saying that I cannot stay stuck on stupid with someone. If a person does not want to deal with the troubles that arise, especially from their difficult actions, then I do not have a healthy relationship. And I want a healthy relationship. I find this very sad because I do believe love was there, just not stronger than the fear. Thanks to all the time I have spent here understanding what I want I was cheered up enough to quickly tell him there is nothing wrong with his view of busy modern romance but I am looking for something else.

Age has no bearing on these guys…they are older but sure as hell not appearing to get any wiser. I will be divorced tomorrow…. HINT: look where we are now! Anyway, we ended up have 2 babies—1st by invitro. If nothing else, I escaped with my pride and my 2 children…. Thank you Natalie for this post. All of your posts are in one way or another what I experienced. Now I am struggling to let my ilusion go and hang onto a big air bubble. I was the stopgap and he finally ended up with his Ex while telling me he cannot YET give me what I want.

He even told me in the same sentence that I deserve better. I hope for everyone who is in the middle of an EUM relationship and following this blog that they get out before it is too late because I have never degraded myself so much and lost all of my self-worth. It is some sort of addiction that is not easy to break. Good luck to everyone out there. It is a struggle and I wish I had listened to everyone surounding me because I am paying the price that I thought I would never have to. It is now to the point that I see his friends out and they are making fun of me because I accepted his behavior.

Thank you Natalie for making me think and learn how to rebuild myself. Natalie, if I did not know better I would swear you have been listening in on my conversations. This article had me all over it…. At the time that he said it I was confused, because I did not realize I wanted or was expecting anything from him.

Unfortunately, I did not heed the warning, and hee kind of stuck around. O, how I wish I would have trusted my intuition. Anyway, I am still mourning the death of the person I thought he was. I learned that when a man shows you who he is accept it. You are not alone, girl. I am just starting that journey and although it has its downs, there are many more ups now that the EUM is gone. TJ yes it is the same thing!! I lost his number and pretty much wrote him off.

Natalie is spot on as always : when she writes that this is an opportunity to RUN!!!! Thanks Kissie, I guess what confused me about that is the fact that he professed to love me and want a future with me for 5 stinking years….

This had me always telling him he was just fine the way he was. Looking back, I believe it was a ploy to have me feeling sorry for him and to throw me off.

He is a coward. He did what he did to keep me hoping while using me until he found something else. I am now seeing that it was good riddance of bad rubbish when it comes to him. I have no respect at all for him, as he is a piece of trash. I just wish I had found this site years ago. Thank you NML, for a great article. Not that I have had numerous relationship however, at the bad ending I had to accept that the man told me actually who he was from the beginning.

Reader Question: What does it mean when a man says ‘I can’t give you want you want’?

The cold-hard truth about men: Most of them have no idea how they feel at any given time. Studies show that men use language to establish difference, separateness and independence exactly the opposite of women, who talk to connect. So, demanding that he talk to you is guaranteed to make him squirm and start rambling. Here are the answers and explanations to his biggest verbal 'Huhs? He means: I think you're really hot and want to ask you out, but I'm too chicken to say so.

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One of the biggest challenges we hear from our clients from their past relationship patterns is having communication issues and misinterpretations when dating. It happens so often that we devoted an entire section of our book, Relationship DUOvers , to this very topic. Take notes! It translates to I like things the way they are and I am not looking to add or change anything. Please take note of that.

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He wants to tell you how his day has been, he wants to know how yours was, he wants the nitty-gritty.

If you have boundaries, values, an awareness about red flags and a reasonable level of self-esteem, a warning statement like this will make you very uncomfortable and bring you back down to earth with a bump. This man already knows his capacity or what he is prepared to give. A decent guy in this situation will not only tell you this, but will opt out and move on with his life.

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Sure, everyone always tells you to "never stop saying I love you" once you're married. It's a nice sentiment—really, it is—and you do your best to remind him of how you feel whenever you can. But if you forget from time to time hey, we know how hectic it gets in that early morning hustle , don't sweat it. Karl Pilemer , Ph. Here, eight other things you can say to your husband that'll really communicate to him just how much you care.


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